OK, I figured it out now. e36's manufactured before 09/1993 came with the receptacles that needed to be armed and disarmed. These receptacles are not compatible with the ti since the ti wasn't introduced to us until 1995. 318ti's built up to 03/97 use a mechanical auto-locking mechanism(part#'s 72118167711 left and 72118167712 right) while models built after 03/97 use a pyrotechnic auto-locking mechanism (part#'s 72118221013 left and 72118221014 right). These do not require arming or disarming, simply unplugging them disarms them.
So I went back AGAIN and fixed all of my old posts regarding the receptacles