John, I just went through a very similar experience. Lost my mom two years ago and it seems like yesterday. My best advice is to find a project and stay busy. However you need to be strong and available for everyone else, especially the little guy. I never really had a chance to greive because I had to be strong for the rest of my family. Looking back, not only did it make me a stronger person, it held the family together during a really tough time. I'm not a religious person, so that spiritual stuff doesn't really work for me. I'm guessing you're in the same boat and you just need to understand that death is part of life. A very big and important part. A loss such as yours can be a tremendous blow, but with the right mindset you can get back up and finish the fight. Get control and be strong brother, your energy will lift everyone around you. Last edited by cooljess76; 04-11-2010 at 05:28 PM. |