I searched for a bit, said screw it I'll figure it out on my own
As you guessed, removed the shifter, whala.
Got it all swapped out. My first guess about why the thing melted in the first place seems to be right. There were 4 crimps on the old O2 sensor pigtail. All 4 were melted together solid.
Either the PO or mechanic repaired the o2 pigtail incorrectly (shorted + to -) or it was on the exhaust and melted. Thats my best guess, as the wires to the DME were melted near the plug on both wires of the 02 circuit and a comman ground (many other places as well).
Anyway, put it all back together, left the 02 disconnected and waited to see smoke or burning wires. Nothing after 5 minutes.
Car started up after a few tries (4+ month old gas), and then....IDLED.
I need a front knock/ping sensor, and an 02 sensor so far, but otherwise it seems fine for now. Drive it until I can figure out if I want M50 + boost or just a s50/52 and be done.
AC seems to blow fairly cold, drives ok. Going to get the insurance cards printed and go for a short drive/put in fresh premium.
WOOT