 » Site Navigation | | | | » Recent Threads | 1999 M3 Swap 09-07-2023 10:10 PM 05-02-2024 08:18 PM 6 Replies, 350,308 Views | |  |  |  | |  08-07-2006, 07:37 AM | #1 | | Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 677 |  Guys are Cruel...
Not you guys thankfully. I just need to vent a little. I ended a 3 year relationship with my ex over a month ago. I am not going to bash him because I am better then the way he has been acting. Basically he would spy on me, never let me hang out with a guy let alone talk to one without getting jealous and I could hardly hangout with my friends without feeling guilty about it. After he spied on me for the last time I had to end it. I just couldnt handle it anymore, he just couldnt trust me and I never did anything for him to lose that trust though he feels he has. Now he is telling his friends including mine that I cheated on him and that I left him for someone else. :looks around: Um I have been single since, no other guy other then me dating. But that wasnt till after we broke up. But he has been destroying my good name, saying I am a wh*re and a Biatch. He is wishing death on me and saying some really cruel things about my family. He says I havent done a single thing for him and that he threw away everything I ever gave him. He is just acting very immature about all this. I have been with him for 3 years, all 3 of those years he couldnt afford to take me out, he had to fix his car all the time, and I helped him through all his problems. I have never had a problem with the fact that he was poor, that he always worked on the car, and the fact that I had to pay my own way and even his sometimes just to go out. I helped him through all his problems and supported him with everything he did when others laughed at him. I stood up for him when others put him down. I felt like I was the perfect girlfriend honestly. I have made mistakes but who hasnt, nothing though for him to not trust me, and you cant have a relationship without trust. But with him saying things like "if you want to know what a girl will look like, look at her mother, I didnt want to marry a 400lb cow" that is just wrong. My mother is beautiful and I love how I am. You just dont say things like that. I am a very outgoing, smart, and adventurous girl, I didnt want to be held back anymore by someone who just bitches about life all the time, saying the world is against him and that he hates everyone, and just sits at home all day playing video games, working on his car that never runs right and watches cartoons. I am moving on and I havent been happier but he needs to relax. Now when I drive by him on the road he drives aggressively and gives me the finger. I just fear he will do something to my car. It isnt healthy his behavior and it scares me because I still care enough to worry about his well being.
He better not come back on this site and start crap with me or you guys either. Yes he did join and he has posted but he drives a 70 camaro and hates new cars, and doesnt want a 318ti so I know the only reason he joined was to spy on me. m3wannabe is his name on the site.....and he says he did it to share interest with me but didnt tell me he joined, I had to find out and confront him about it. I know what I am saying is a little sketchy, its late and im tried and im trying not to just bash him, so if you confused at all by what im saying im sorry. But yeah thats my situation and thanks for sticking with me if your still reading. At least it explains why I havent talked much on the site, there has been so much going on in my life and I need to go back to those who care about me. I know I always have you guys to talk to, at least I feel like I do. __________________  my new world |  |  | | 08-07-2006, 11:09 AM | #2 | | Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Greenville, SC Posts: 9,356 |
Sounds like he had outside influences.
Seriously, nothing has changed since I was your age.
Have fun being 'unattached'.
Life goes on and usually for the better.
Your experiences will make you a stronger person. __________________ ...steven
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| | | | | 08-07-2006, 01:03 PM | #3 | | Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Watford, herts, England Posts: 805 |
definitely. keep your chin up! sounds like you're far better off without him. feel free to moan on the board! __________________ 
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http://www.myspace.com/davep_uk | | | | | 08-07-2006, 03:05 PM | #4 | | TRETEN IRGENDEINES ESELS Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Rhode Island Posts: 3,687 |
Sounds like you deserved better this whole time,sorry about your split up.
If he saying all this crap about you to people just continue being the bigger person. He's the one making himself look like a fool by running his mouth. 97% of the guys out there are jerks but there are a few decent guys out there,you just got to search for them. Enjoy the rest of summer and relax,when the tiems right you'll find a better guy. __________________ 98 Avus Blue 318 ti Active
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www.myspace.com/avusblueti | | | | | 08-07-2006, 03:14 PM | #5 | | Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Berlin, Germany Posts: 258 |
Make sure he doesn't go after your car in a jealous rage or something... __________________  | | | | | 08-07-2006, 04:24 PM | #6 | | Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Lincoln Park Capitol Hill, Washington DC Posts: 741 |
Guys are jerks............because they mature 10 years later than women......I just turned 40 last week and I still act like I'm 12............  But for now.....just BE: Be yourself Be the bigger person Be having fun by yourself Be single and embrace it Be, be, be................whatever you want to be........  You're better off without a jerk like HIM. have a great summer and moan all you want here....at least I'll read yours. Good luck __________________
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Future Mods: E46 17" wheels or Kosei K-1 17x8.5s | | | | | 08-07-2006, 06:54 PM | #7 | | Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Oakland, baby! Posts: 102 |
Sounds like the boy (can't really call those actions those of a man) has some unaddressed insecurities... or at least some challenges ahead of him in learning how to communicate. Then again, what do I know... I'm divorced! | | | | | 08-08-2006, 12:06 AM | #8 | | Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: New Zealand Posts: 34 |
I hear what your saying and I totally agree as I am going throught the same thing. What I have learnt is that no matter how perfect a partner I am or what I do, he will never change unless he wants to, and it is a two sided thing in a relationship and if you are unbalanced then its time to move on, so good on you. Just remember that people who truly know and love you will know that he is talking rubbish and as the old saying goes "its better for people to think you're stupid, than to open you mouth and prove it."
If you're really worried about your car you might want to go to the police and get a restraining order or what ever you have over there to keep him away from you and yours. | | | | | 08-08-2006, 04:13 AM | #9 | | Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Port St. Johns, Florida Posts: 2,242 |
yea, def keep the car out the breakup.
best bet if there is a fight go inside where the Ti can't hear you
fights make Ti(s) sad. | | | | | 08-08-2006, 04:36 AM | #10 | | Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 1,152 |
You did the right thing and move on. There are always better catches out there if you take the time to find that special someone. You are always welcome here even though most of us are male. Always have an open ear for you... | | | | | 08-08-2006, 04:41 AM | #11 | | Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: CA Posts: 104 |
is your ex-bf 15 years old? get a man | | | | | 08-08-2006, 06:22 AM | #12 | | Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 677 |
lol thanks everyone, you guys are so great! I will keep everyone posted if he continues his lunatic ways. and I dont want to make the ti sad lol.
azca....unbelievably he is 20.....though he acts 13. The world is against him and he has nothing but negative things to say. Even his friends he would put down and bad mouth when they didnt agree with him on something or were there to help him. But when they actually were on his side of things then they were the best people in the world. I just hope one day everyone sees him for who he is before its too late. __________________ my new world | | | | | 08-08-2006, 08:19 AM | #13 | | Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Westfield, IN Posts: 1,335 |
sorry for ur break up!! that is a really SH!TY THING!! u should get a restraining order on him!! __________________ Greg
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95 ti sold but staying in the family. | | | | | 08-08-2006, 10:38 PM | #14 | | Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Columbus, Ohio Posts: 26 |
This may sound redundant, but the more you let him bother you the more he wins. Find a good set of people (friends) to hang out with and wash yourself of the situation. Its hard to do, but there are lots of us that have done it. There is always an ear here. | | | | | 08-08-2006, 11:05 PM | #15 | | Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: CA Posts: 104 |
You seem to be smart/cute/fun girl. I am sure you will find someone who will love you and treat you right  Quote: Originally Posted by bmwracerchick  azca....unbelievably he is 20.....though he acts 13. The world is against him and he has nothing but negative things to say. Even his friends he would put down and bad mouth when they didnt agree with him on something or were there to help him. But when they actually were on his side of things then they were the best people in the world. I just hope one day everyone sees him for who he is before its too late. | | | | | | |
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